At the start of a year, usually, people like to take resolutions, determining what they want to achieve, in order to be better, either for themselves or for their closed ones. Beginning of 2017, I didn’t take a resolution, I took a vow to do something for someone really close to me in my family, and somewhere, maybe, for myself too. I took an oath, to also prove to the world that I AM someone who they presume I am not.
I always think about the good things my parents have taught me since the time I have started understanding what life is all about and one of those things is that before laying a finger at someone else for anything, always notice that three of your fingers would be pointing towards you. And before blaming other people for their habit(s), first check your own.
So what exactly is a habit?
An aquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary.
I challenged myself to crush the word ‘habit’ into a thousand pieces, so much that it is mixed well in the desert sand, becoming almost unnoticeable. You must be wondering, what did I do?
I didn’t consume a single bit of alcohol or tobacco for three hundred and sixty five days. Now, OBVIOUSLY, it is the most difficult thing I have ever done. You would also think that you understand what I have gone through. Trust me, you don’t. Having a surrounding of ninety percent people drinking and ninety nine percent drinking & smoking and telling your mind not to do both, in bars, clubs, at pre-drinks, at SHISHA CAFÉs, house get togethers, with family, on birthdays, on anniversaries, IS NOT EASY.
First few months were the toughest. They usually are! Then I started getting used to it. I started driving around people more. I didn’t stop going to shisha cafés because thats mostly where my friends would hang out! Yup, I was helpless. Nevertheless, I went lesser, ergo, met them lesser. So many of my close friends, even my parents insisted me to drink at an occasion or even normally, but I just wouldn’t agree. I am glad that I am blessed with a STRONG mindset.
Back in the day, I had had moments where I had consumed limitless alcohol, SO MANY times. I had heard people talking about me being an alcoholic [when I wasn’t], in my EXTENDED FAMILY and FRIENDS OF FRIENDS. Behind my back, I was being made fun of about my alcoholic habits. I was aware of everything, yet, never uttered a word.
WHAT I HAVE ACHIEVED IN THIS YEAR, is also for ALL OF YOU.
We all are in the era of sharing every single detail on social media. My main purpose of sharing this (as mentioned above already) is for someone close to me, who is addicted to tobacco. I know you’re reading this and I want you to QUIT. It CAN be done. Plus, it is not only for motivating you all to resist your habits but also for setting your mind to the right things and not towards the wrong. I am not telling you to be an extremist like me, but only not to do something so often that you’re sick of it one day. DO NOT let your habit turn into an addictive nightmare.
Never have I used so many I’s in my life, while writing or speaking, but I think it is obligatory here. The question which arrises now is, what henceforth? I don’t know whether I will start again, consume lesser or be normal, like I used to be or even go extreme towards the opposite direction (well, because it HAS been VERY LONG). But, one thing is for sure now that, I can stop it whenever I want to. And now, no one can point that finger at me. Hence, I would like to conclude by saying that,
Addiction is JUST a state of mind and YOU have all the power to change it.