Women, the most wonderful creation of God. Something we south-asians brag about. Although, these talks are nothing more than a mere lip service. Why? Well, let’s see.
On one hand, we talk about how women should be given more power and responsibility to grow and how they should be set free to fly. In reality, however, it all applies only when the woman in question is not from our family. Women from our families need to take permission for everything. Right from what they wear to what they talk about and with whom. Our hypocrisy laughs at us when we say, “Oh! I allowed my wife/sister to do so”.
Seriously? We think they need our permission to do things? Who are WE to permit them?
Wait a minute, let’s not jump into conclusion. I am not blaming men for what I said above. Women are equally responsible for this sorry state of theirs. They think that if a guy wants to do all this and keep total control then it is his right, after all, he loves her so much. They forget that if he loves her then so does she, only more intensely, dedicating her everything for his family. There is no trade deal involved in their relation which says that the guy will love the girl and she should take permissions before doing things in return, right?
Some of you will think now, “Come on! We are the new generation and we know what’s right and what’s not.” Yes, we do. But, is knowing alone enough?
When it comes to standing with the right, the first thing we see is who are we standing against. If they are from our family, then very conveniently, we try to justify the right. We all want to be politically correct. Just how can we say, “my family is wrong”, isn’t it?
Be it a girl’s family, who says, “try and adjust with their requirements” or the guy himself who sees his wife being treated rudely and remains a mute spectator.
So let’s see who really is responsible then for such a sorry state of women in our society,
1) Boys / Men, who are made to believe what they are doing is their right.
2) Parents, who fail to reach their children to stand up for what’s right even if it means standing against everyone.
3) Women, who shout on top of their voices about liberty in colleges and offices and go home and say, “Oh, my bro / hubby won’t allow me this”.
Where we say, “Set your goals and strive to attain them.” to our daughters before marriage and then, at a latter stage of their life, say, “Forgo everything as you are married now.” All this hypocrisy just because she is a daughter?
It is high time we stop this farce of empowering women and continue to celebrate how we grind them in the name of responsibility and love. Let us prepare the boys / men of the current generation and the next to face empowering women first, and then teach them to be respectful towards them. Otherwise, aren’t we creating a society of constant conflicts?
For every reader who can relate to something from above, just remember, it is your guilty conscience and if felt bad then please understand, it was purely intended.